Therapy - Affirmations
by Patty E. Fleener M.S.W
Someone told me just the other day after
something negative happened in their life, "This is a bad
sign I just know it is. This new year is not going to be a
good one. How can it be? Look how it is starting out?"
Let's examine this statement just for a second. What is this
person doing? Two things come to mind. Magical thinking.
All in all, nothing is based on anything
reasonable. Yet, how many times do we all find ourselves
ACTUALLY saying and believing that?
I am going to bring up COGNITIVE THERAPY again. On one level
it might come true. What we think about is what we become.
Remember? Our subconscious mind does not know the difference
between what we say to ourselves and reality. So it believes
it. When it believes it then if we live otherwise we live
outside of our comfort zone. When we do that - life outside
our comfort zone, we seem to go on auto pilot and
subconsciously live our lives within our comfort zone to match
what our subconscious mind believes.
This is so!
If we tell ourselves enough times that we are thin and
beautiful and go so far as to see it in our mind's eye and do
it daily and often enough, our subconscious mind really
believes that is true TODAY. It believes it. So when we look
in the mirror and see if we are overweight or haven't gotten
those split ends cut off in 8 months we are uncomfortable -
more than usual. We are living out of our comfort zone because
we have begun to fool our subconscious mind into believing we
are thin and beautiful.
So what do we do? We get into our comfort zone and we go on a
HEALTHY eating lifestyle, (I did not say diet as they do not
work) make an appointment with the hair dresser, buy some
sharp looking clothes if we can afford it, etc.
Now take this information and apply it to self esteem, to
getting out of abusive relationships, to learning to love
yourself, to getting the nerve up to face your in-laws, to
You do this by practicing affirmations. You must only use
positive affirmations. Nothing negative and SEE yourself
actually there and do it as much as possible and don't worry
about believing it. It will come in time. Affirmations must be
stated as if they are in the present "I am feeling
wonderful, confident and calm as I approach my in-laws and
tell them how I feel. I feel strong and courageous." See
yourself approaching them and feeling those feelings. See
yourself saying what you want to say to them. See yourself
walking away when you are done and see yourself feeling
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