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Replies to Family Member Letter about Rages

Recovering Person with Borderline Personality Disorder

I have borderline personality disorder (BPD) and I find myself very much into recovery so please know there is hope for recovery. It sounds to me there are many things going on that need to be addressed. Let me start with what has helped me the most. The most effective tool I have found to date is Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Skills Training. These skills were developed by Marsha Linehan especially for people with BPD however anyone and everyone can and do benefit from them. 

The skills teach you a new way to look at your thought patterns and develop a better response to old response techniques. I can't say this enough to you that your partner would benefit from participation in a DBT program and I think you would also. You can talk to your therapist about finding a DBT group or if this person doesn't know of such a program you can call the state of Washington, the clinic of Marsha Linehan's at 1-206-675-8588 and tell them of your location and they well refer you to the nearest program. If this isn't available to you, do as I did and order the book from the website,  bookstore and work the skills yourself if you need additional support in learning the skills go to the websites bulletin boards and locate the dbt skills board and use it as the tool it was intended for. 


Ask questions and get help in understanding the skills, this is what I have done. In addition Mental Health Today is having ongoing Chat Conferences on DBT and we would love to have you and anyone else interested join us. These chat conferences are open to everyone weather you have bpd or not and if you missed a chat conference don't worry we have posted the chats on the main websites front page so you can catch up on them and come to the next one. 

Next I think if I were in your shoes I would join a Codependant's support group. I don't know all of your situation and I don't want to judge, however sometimes without knowing we 'enable people to continue to behave' and this might just be part of the problem in your relationship. Finally I truly wish all family members would take advantage of the chat room set up for family and loved one's of people with bpd and bipolar. This is an opportunity for you to vent, get new idea's, and feel as if your not all alone in your search for a better life and relationship with your special loved one.
My best wishes for a successful and fulfilling life,

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