Replies to Family Member Letter about Rages

Person with Borderline Personality Disorder

Deal with the rage of a borderline personality disorder or any person in the world the same way. Recognize and validate the person's feelings in as calm and empathetic and respectful a manner as possible. If the rage is overwhelmingly inappropriate, hurtful or violent, tell them so. Having a mental illness doesn't give anyone the right to behave cruelly or abusively toward another person. If the situation cannot be managed or continues to be a serious problem then separate yourself -- leave, just say "no". Don't sacrifice your happiness just to appease someone else. Those of us with BPD etc., don't have some kind of "built-in" excuse to stomp all over the rest of the world just because we're sick. You deal with inappropriate behavior from anyone all in the same fashion, no exceptions!

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