Q. What Do I Do With All This Pain?
I feel so frustrated and hopeless, that I see no other
choices but suicide. My diagnoses are Borderline Personality Disorder
and Major Depression Recurrent with Post Traumatic Sress Disorder
I have some problems in my current life, but I really
believe they are not causing me to feel this badly.
I am at a loss here. The question is I am not sure
what I need to do now. Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.
A. First of all let me express my concern that you
feel so badly. I’d like to address your most dangerous concern, suicidal
ideation. In the short term, it is just helpful to find comfort while
you continue on searching for solutions. I’d like to suggest that
you visit the
MH Today Suicide Prevention Site and follow the links to find
some way of holding on.
Sometimes self-talk is helpful to keep hanging on until
you find your answers. Comforting sayings like:
Sometimes, it is as simple as to STOP making yourself
wrong for feeling so bad. Simple was the word I used, not easy. Most
people who are in serious emotional pain blame themselves for the
pain. Then their self-talk and actions make them feel even worse.
If you can understand that you have some kinds of reasons for feeling
this badly, then you might stop criticizing yourself for hurting inside.
This can be your biology, heredity, life experiences or personal history.
Then you can think about comforting yourself.
Sometimes, all I need is a break…a silly humorous movie, a best seller
to read, a bubble bath, or crying to my dog. Some people can think
of things they’d do for a friend if a friend was hurting. Then they
go and do that activity.
Remember, what I wrote above are short-term solutions.
Try them until you can find the answers to help you feel better.
Please write back and tell me how you are doing.